Monday, August 1, 2011

Just the 2 of us and a dog or two

If you know me at all you know GH and I don't want to have kids. Like ever. If you're really good friends with me, then this post will be old news!


Why we don't want to have kids:
  • We are selfish. 
  • The thought of being responsible for another human being makes me physically sick to my stomach. Too much pressure.
  • I like getting a full night's sleep every single night.
  • We love to travel. Now, I know you can travel with kids too, but it's not the same. We like being able to just get away for the weekend or longer and with kids you have to figure out who will take care of them while you're gone. This is why we have a dog, you can kennel a dog, you can't kennel a kid.
  • After working with very needy kids all day, the last thing I want to do is come home and take care of another kid. 
  • I love sleeping in on the weekends.
  • I love decorating and buying stuff for our home, if we had a kid, I would be forced to "child proof" said home. That's not something I'm interested in.
  • I don't like having spit up on my clothes.
  • We just want to be the favorite aunt and uncle that can spoil the kid{s} and then send them home!

 If you are going to comment, please keep this in mind: This is my personal thoughts and feelings about kids, so please be kind. or I will kick you in the shins.

Having kids is not for everyone. I can't imagine ever saying "I'm ready to have a kid". However, if I ever get knocked up, I know we would be great parents.

25 comments:

Rebekah said...

It makes me sad to hear that people might look down on you for it. It's not their business! I want kids and can't imagine going through life not having them, but I would never say anything rude to someone who doesn't. It's not my life!

Nicki said...

It is so refreshing to hear someone else not want kids. We don't want kids AT ALL right now. We're open to the fact that may one day change, but right now we really consider never having kids. I don't think you're selfish at all -- I think you just know what you want. Sometimes having kids is the selfish option, and I think it's great that y'all can truly make this decision for yourselves. Too many people have kids simply because it's "what you do" when it's really not for everyone. Thanks for your thoughts!

Heather said...

Thank god, someone else who doesn't want kids! I like kids and all, just not enough to have them...for all the reasons you put above :).

tara said...

hopefully everyone behaves in the comments and realizes that you and your hubby can do whatever you want to do regarding kids or not! i'm still not at the point where i'm ready for them, but i'm thinking it will happen for me eventually!

star said...

I completely understand why you dont want to have kids, because I would rather not have kids for all those reasons as well. Even though I rather not have a kid, I could never imagine not having a kid, those that make sense? I want to be a mom, even though I know its gonna be so hard, and it scares the crap out of me. But I also know its going to be one of the most amazing experiences ever! Like I said, I totally understand you girl, and its okay if you dont want to have kids. It sucks that people judge you, its none of their business!

Kate said...

Hey, kids aren't for everyone. I hate that people are rude to you about it. People can never seem to mind their own business about that kind of stuff. Your life, your choice! Now go spoil those nieces and nephews! :)

Bewildered Bug said...

It's interesting that you write this post just as I'm preparing to write one similar!

This is just your business - in the end society looks down on people (women especially) who decide not to have kids - it's a tough choice to make but proves how independent you two are.

I'm currently reading a book called "Complete without Kids" by Ellen L. Walker to do a review and giveaway in August - it's an interesting read so far....I think you should try to pick it up - if not only just to slap the people ordering you to have kids with....

Ashleigh said...

I totally respect you for knowing what you want! I think people who make judgmentel comments are wither jealous or just plain rude. We have a daughter and a lot of our friends are already thinking about "2nd baby" and telling us we should "hurry up and get it done now" while we are young... but you have to do what works for you!

Amanda said...

My fiance and I are seriously considering the "no child" life - we call it DINK status (Double income, No kids). I love having a dog and would rather have another one than a kid.

My cousin and her husband have been married for 11 years and have no desire to have kids. They have 6 nieces and nephews and love to spoil them. They bought a beautiful 100 year old home, fixed it up and travel a lot. I really admire then for their choice and how they have made an amazing life for themselves. To me there is NOTHING wrong with not wanting children and a good friend will totally understand!

Life With Lauren said...

I think each couple should be able to decide what is right for them. There are far to many people out there that just have them to have them. You making a choice for what is right for the two of you is between the two of you. I want a child more than anything but that is what I want but that is me. It is sad to think people would be rude to you for for the choice you make for yourself.

Brittany said...

Oh you make me laugh! I think it's great you want to be the favorite aunt and uncle! Dogs are great too because they don't talk back! :)

Amber said...

oh I just love you Kerbi! Good for you for doing what's best for you guys! Plus, if you had a little one running around, you'd have to spend your money on diapers instead of Tory Burch shoes! ;)

Lindsey @ Running Down A Dream said...

I thought for a while that I didn't want to have a baby (of course, I already have McK), but now I know I want more kids. I definitely don't think you should have kids for anyone else. I respect the fact that you know what you do (and don't) want. You can always change your mind if you want them, but it's not like you can have them and give them back! haha

Katie said...

Ummm this post took me back to Sharky's in the Fall of 2006...screaming babies everywhere. You and I both look up at the same time, say, "SICK!" And bolt out of there faster than you can say burrito! ;) Good mems!

Neely said...

You know I basically feel the same way right? :) LOOOOVEEEE YOU!

Valene Marie said...

OMGOGH I love your blog even more now!!! I so agree with you :) I love kids and have worked with children for all my adult life, and since I've had so much experience with children I get the opportunity to experience it without having a poop-monster "of my very own". One other thing that irritates me are women that make becoming pregnant their sole purpose on Earth, I just find that so sad. I've also come to notice that the "Mom's Club" (just mothers in general) are very mean, judgmental and rude to other's child FREE opinions... I think they are just jealous! Studies have shown child FREE couple are happier and have more successful marriages that last :)

Kiley said...

I, too, am so selfish. LOL.

I just don't see it in my future, either. I get way too overwhelmed by being around the moms with the huge strollers and crazy ass kids at my store everyday.

There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids! I can't tell you how many moms I know that (of course they LOVE their children, but...) had kids b/c they figured it was "the next step."

You just gotta do what's best for your relationship!

<3 <3

Channa, Life as a Coaches Wife said...

I am laughing so hard because after reading your reasons who would want to have kids?! HA! Y'all will make great aunt and uncle!

Laura@Cowboy Boots said...

will y'all be my kids auntie and uncle? sadly we have tons but none are even active in my kids lives. my sil (bro wife) is too obsessed with her family and leaves no room for mine...my other bro and sis (half) live in houston and never really had a part in my life. i get sooo envious of the aunt/uncle relationships most of my friends have. sooo with that being said...i'll take care of all the poop/puke stuff....you can be the favorite auntie...the one they run to with all their secrets b/c ur the 'cool' one

Domesticated-Bliss said...

It's good that you two have made this joint decision and you're being honest about what you want rather than trying to conform to what people expect from you. "Next Steps" decisions always get couples in trouble :) You have to always assess and know what you want for your future for the right reasons and not just because it's the next step you're supposed to do :) Good for you!

Ambs said...

OMGoodness!!! J and I seriously just had this talk about 3minutes ago! I completely agree with you... maybe I will change my mind in time, but I just can't see it happening right now...

Becca {A Blonde's Logic} said...

I'm not sure I want kids either. I agree with all of your reasons! Babies make me nervous! And I like having money to spend on me and my man, kids are so expensive!

Becca
http://blondeslogic.blogspot.com

Ashley said...

I love that you posted this! There is definitely NOTHING wrong with not wanting to have kids, and no one should make you feel bad for not wanting them. It's your life!! Love you dear!

Emily said...

I love being a Mama and being pregnant... but I totally respect people that don't want to have kids. It's good that you KNOW that you do NOT want them. Better than popping out a baby and saying, "Oh s$%^" after the fact! I have 6 siblings and 2 of them know for sure that they will never have kids. I think being around the nieces and nephews solidified that for them. I will admit that at times I wish that Jason and I were able to go away for a weekend last minute, or go on a extravagant vacation- just the two of us. But, I do love my life right now. I'll just have to live vicariously through you when it kids to life with no kiddos! :)

Just the 3 of Us said...

I think it's far better to say you acknowledge you do not want children and do not plan on having them than to have them when you do not want them because it may be 'expected' of you.

Too many people have babies just to have them and don't parent well.

Although I have chosen differently... I think it's great you and your husband know what is best for YOU!

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